tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post141212948086733754..comments2023-10-15T04:58:06.889-04:00Comments on Living in DD: TroublemakingIslaWintershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12640942403211174024noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-78539152046586016892011-07-21T13:36:30.972-04:002011-07-21T13:36:30.972-04:00LOL, I can't seem to stay out of trouble, eith...LOL, I can't seem to stay out of trouble, either! I know what you mean by the pain seeming overwhelming. And sending mixed messages. Definitely discuss warm-ups. My guy wouldn't let us do that, but he did agree to go softer in the beginning. So that's worked better, as has having gotten in trouble a lot, so I've gotten more used to it, LOL (not intentional, but still a great byproduct)! Good luck to you, girl! :)Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03055228106900399814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-81271598654985050912011-07-21T00:15:22.273-04:002011-07-21T00:15:22.273-04:00Kiwi - Up until now, Leo and I have really only us...Kiwi - Up until now, Leo and I have really only used spanking as a punishment. But I think that your suggestion would be really beneficial! (Although missing any of my favourite shows would be terrible, so I think I'll accidentally-on-purpose forget to share that one with him, haha). Corner time and writing lines have always been something that I have thought about but never discussed with Leo. Thanks for the thought - I will have to mention them to him! And I will try to blog more often, I promise!<br /><br />PK - Leo has always gone straight to the bare, which I think is part of the problem. It would probably be easier to take the spankings if he started off with a warm up over the pants. Thank you for the suggestion! :) <br /><br />TDDUP - I agree. While it wasn't quite a full blown accident (thank goodness), I still felt shaken and upset by it. I think that if Leo and I had specific instances where I would automatically be spanked, we wouldn't have to constantly contemplate what is and isn't a spankable offence. We have done this before; I used to post about having a bedtime, and I would be spanked if I didn't manage to make it on time. It would probably be a good idea to sit down and really communicate about it, as you suggested. <br /><br />findingsara - I think that regular maintenance spankings could be helpful. I know in the back of my mind that even though I don't want a spanking, it will still help me...but sometimes I just forget. I have a lot to discuss with Leo! :)IslaWintershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12640942403211174024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-49881298246967365592011-07-20T10:20:39.886-04:002011-07-20T10:20:39.886-04:00Not all mishaps deserve spanking, right? Maybe you...Not all mishaps deserve spanking, right? Maybe you need a slower, longer, less intense, non-punishment spanking to help you feel more settled and less moody? Just a thought, as even when I don't want it, I know it almost always helps me. Sarafindingsarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07352980311488921341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-21127086391051475712011-07-20T09:51:08.721-04:002011-07-20T09:51:08.721-04:00Aw, I think these bumps in the road ( and in our ...Aw, I think these bumps in the road ( and in our moods) are completely normal. Maybe one thing to do, if you haven't already, is to sit down and just get it all out. Maybe writing down what issues to focus on would help. For example, having an accident isn't a spankable offence (because in the end, it isn't a relationship threatening issue) but perhaps you would like him to always follow through on something else you struggle with. I wouldn't want a spanking for having an accident either. I would be so shaken up and those are times when your partner needs to be there to hold you close and comfort. For us, we have a few key issues that guarantee a spanking. It helps me to know what to expect and it helps my husband to be clear on what he will spank for so that when I try to stall ( as we all do!), he can just point out the behaviour in our agreement and then follow through with the consequence. I certainly don't want to tell you how to do DD - it is different for everyone - but I just thought I'd share what I have found helpful. <br /><br />On another note: Harry Potter rocked!! I'm a huge fan of the books and I've seen most of the movies. I loved it! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-36608808870616028262011-07-20T08:29:34.294-04:002011-07-20T08:29:34.294-04:00IslaWinter,
I used to constantly fuss that Nick wa...IslaWinter,<br />I used to constantly fuss that Nick wasn't spanking hard enough or long enough. But then after an especially long break it seemed like I just couldn't take it. I became a real wimp. I still wanted him to spank but it really hurt. Mixed signals must drive the guys crazy. Maybe you could ask him to start off slower, maybe over clothes and continue with a long warmup to give you a chance to adjust.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />PKPKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3820749622437981762.post-30255324918437365862011-07-20T00:49:26.070-04:002011-07-20T00:49:26.070-04:00Im just on my way out so just a quick thought have...Im just on my way out so just a quick thought have you considered other punishments apart from spanking - time out, early bedtime, just a plain telling off, corner time, extra chores, removing privilleges, writing lines? He confiscates my cash cards all the time - or Im not allowed to go shopping by myself. And the thought of being sent to bed early and missing my favourite show :( horrible. <br />As for me, well im always in trouble, i think trouble is my middle name right now LOL. I got a major spanking on Sunday night for a few things that had accumulated. Not sure it works because i was also so very angry and frustrated with him because he hadnt spanked me sooner...long story ... I have blogged about it. Will see what happens. <br />But glad to see you back, have missed you, blog more often LOL - I like hearing from you :)kiwigirliegirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875041768284887283noreply@blogger.com